Let it happen!

Last year, I gave a lot of effort to romance and never quite succeeded. This year, based on a chapter I read written by Deepak Chopra on attachment, I decided to take a more non-attached approach.  I sent this email to a friend recently and decided to share my revelation regarding my new approach of letting things happen:

"My love life continues to take it’s twists and turns.  I was seeing someone on a "no-strings" basis and it was going pretty well.  Then, she decided to tie strings with someone and she can’t see me anymore.  What I liked most about our time together was that we could speak honestly and openly about everything.  Also, I never did anything to impress her or spoil her, I was just me (you know Jaime/Jimmy) the whole time we were together. The last time we spoke she told me that, if she hadn’t fallen in love with this other guy, she would’ve fallen in love with me. On the plus side, I realize that I was in the running without even trying!  I mean this guy beat me but I wasn’t competing (meanwhile he went through a lot of hoops to win her over).  So, I guess the moral of the story is that I don’t have to try so hard (I think that’s my problem) — if it’s meant to happen, it will. So, I’m just rolling with the flow and focussing on keeping myself healthy (I’ve lost around 30 pounds so far)."

Another aspect or corollary of this approach is to keep it simple.  This past weekend I had a great time because I decided to keep it simple.  Whenever I found my plans getting too complicated, I reviewed them and found a way to simplify my approach.  I think I may be on to something.