NEW MONOGAMY?

I found the following article related to my prior blog:

 

http://lifestyle.msn.com/Relationships/CouplesandMarriage/ArticleIV2.aspx?cp-documentid=299661&GT1=7909

 

It talks about cheating within the rules.  Most of the experts tend to agree that this does not work out.  The following is my favorite response from one of my favorite authors:

Dr. Ruth
"There’s No Acceptable Percentage of Risk"
Because I’m a sex therapist, I see the people who have problems, and that probably slants my view in a predictable direction. But boy, do I see problems when couples have been having sex with other people — even when both parties initially consented to the idea. Two happily married people might think that their relationship can survive introducing other partners into the mix. But when one partner gets jealous, then the damage done to the relationship is often irreparable.

Are there couples that engage in this agreed-upon cheating without incurring any harm? Possibly. So I guess the question becomes: What are the odds of a relationship falling apart because of such behavior? I can’t be certain, but if you value your relationship, there is no acceptable percentage of risk in my book. It’s my belief that the old monogamy is far better than the new one.

The original sexpert, Dr. Ruth has given advice for over 20 years and counting. She’s hosted many television shows — including Sexually Speaking with Dr. Ruth Westheimer and What’s Up, Dr. Ruth? among others. She’s written 30 books, such as Dr. Ruth’s Encyclopedia of Sex, The Art of Arousal (Abbeville Press) and her newest, Dr. Ruth’s Sex After 50: Revving Up Your Romance, Passion and Excitement! (A Best Half of Life), taught classes at Yale and been named one of People’s "Most Intriguing People of the Century."