THE HEART KNOWS NO TECHNICALITIES…

Situation:
My ex-friend (AMIGO) was dating a friend (LA_OTRA) of his fiancée (LA_NOVIA). He eventually found out that LA_OTRA hung out a lot with LA_NOVIA’s best friend (LA_AMIGA). I advised him to back off but he persisted until he was caught. LA_NOVIA had told AMIGO that he could see other girls but only under certain conditions. AMIGO will not admit to doing wrong because “technically” he obeyed the limitations of LA_NOVIA.

My email (in response to his request for advice):
AMIGO,
I can’t speak for TU_NOVIA but, from my experience, quoting subsection A of article 3b of the bylaws to point out a loophole wherein you did nothing wrong by being with LA_OTRA is probably not what she wants to hear. I think you should spend less energy looking for loopholes and more time trying to avoid anything that might even remotely hurt her feelings. Once you even suspected that LA_OTRA might be more than an acquaintance, you should have dumped her like a bad habit. Doing a friend of your fiancée (or a friend of your fiancée’s best friend LA_AMIGA) is just not cool, regardless of the rules laid out in the latest revision of the AMIGO-TU_NOVIA peace accord. If you really want to do right by this girl, try to be more proactive and focus more on the spirit rather than the letter of whatever emotional law you think currently applies.